Boundaries aren't walls—they're guidelines that protect both you and your clients. Without them, you'll burn out, and your coaching will suffer. With them, you create a container where transformation happens.
Why Coaches Struggle with Boundaries
- We genuinely care and want to help
- We fear losing clients if we say no
- We conflate availability with value
- We haven't defined our limits clearly
Essential Boundaries to Set
Time Boundaries
- Session start and end times are firm
- Communication hours (no texts at 10 PM)
- Response time expectations (24-48 hours)
- Vacation and time-off policies
Scope Boundaries
- Coaching vs. therapy distinction
- What you will and won't coach on
- When to refer out
- The limits of between-session support
Relationship Boundaries
- Professional friendship vs. personal friendship
- Social media connections
- Dual relationships to avoid
- Appropriate physical boundaries
How to Communicate Boundaries
Be Proactive
State boundaries upfront in your agreement, not after they're crossed. "Sessions run 50 minutes and end on time to honor both our schedules."
Be Kind but Firm
Boundaries aren't about being harsh. "I care about your progress, and I've found that coaching works best when we keep our sessions focused. Let's save this for our next session."
Be Consistent
Enforce boundaries every time. Exceptions teach clients that boundaries are negotiable.
When Boundaries Are Crossed
- Address it promptly—don't let it fester
- Assume positive intent
- Restate the boundary clearly
- Discuss how to move forward
- Follow through on consequences if needed
Boundaries Protect the Work
Good boundaries don't diminish your coaching—they enhance it. Clients respect coaches who respect themselves. And you'll have the energy and presence to do your best work.